They say it’s all about the journey, which is all very well when you are in your 20’s but not even a bit ok when you are hurtling towards your mid 30’s.
The fact that I was so desperate to get married when I was in my early 20’s is the cause of much of my laughter these days, I knew absolutely nothing then it’s no wonder that didn’t end well. I should have been more laid back about it, I should have realised that life has so much more to offer. But my mind was set, the target was clear, big diamond ring and happily ever after was crucial before the age of 25.
I had it in the bag at 23, that lasted 10 years. ( I kept the ring )
I had so much time and potential then, no strings, big wide world. Now those things are restricted or fast running out.
I recently realised that I am in an amazing relationship, to nowhere and now I am worried. Firstly I wasn’t even sure why we were bothering. I asked him what the point was when he has clearly stated I’ll never be the one, and he said he likes to spend time with me. I was like, yeah that’s fine in your 20’s ( he still is ) but I am really wondering how much time I can allocate of the precious 30’s to this person before I will have to move on and find some who at least will consider a future with me.
Even though, to be clear. I don’t want to leave him. I don’t want either of us to have relationships with other people. But do I really have any choice?
I hate to view this as a waste of time because nothing could be further from the truth. But it is crystal clear I’ll never be enough to change his mind, we clearly just want different things. He has the time and I don’t think I do?
So I guess I am interested in your thoughts and opinions on the following question:
If they quite clearly see no future with you, then what is the point in continuing to invest in the relationship?