Is it only in relationships that are filled with passion where you experience arguments?
Because in the past, I’ve not really had the need to argue. I can’t decide if this is because we got on so well that we never had anything to fall out about ( I doubt this very much ) or it is because neither of us actually cared enough to have the energy to argue. Instead we would both just quietly fume, then forget it and that would be it. Because lets face it, it is never than important.
But recently I have been experiencing a whole new phenomenon. That’s the dash straight into to a mega argument on the basis on one misused phrase or one minor confusion, which could be easily explained if any contemplation time was given. But no, there is no reasoning here, there is no stopping to think if it was really intended in the way it is interpreted. Straight to anger and upset with immediate effect.
It exhausting. Not to mention upsetting. It seems to last too and more often than not I find myself apologising, even though I’m the one who is absolutely broken by the experience. It will be that has to forget my own hurt to make it all better. It will be my fault.
So I do wonder, are some personalities just more fiery together? Are some people just more aggressive than others in relationships? ( I think absolutely yes) Is there a right or wrong way to respond to issues in relationships? Do some of us just cut each other some more slack?
Is the mere fact that you can be bothered to argue a sign that you both care more about the relationship and the amount that you have invested?
Or more worryingly, is it just a sign that you are not compatible at all?