Because, like, not every love lasts. In fact the majority of them combust, or fizzle into nothing, few people nowadays find a love that lasts a lifetime ( I am insanely jealous of those ) . You may have some great memories and those people may leave a legacy but the love stops. It’s a temporary fix rather than a lifestyle.
So how can we sift out which ones are which? I have been in several relationships where I have been the ‘holding love’ and by this I mean, we dawdled along quite happily together but it was pretty obvious I was never going to be the one and when an opportunity presented we both moved on. Did i know at the time i was the ‘hold’? I am not sure, but it is blindingly obvious now!! You Live and learn, eh? When I was younger it didn’t feel like a waste of time, I would probably feel differently now I am the wrong side of 30. I mean, who has actually got time to be the caretaker of a love just so that it can be kept company whilst it waits for the right person to show up? We are busy people with busy lives!
Can temporary love really be true love? I kind of think it can only be lust. Maybe with a bit of friendship and infatuation thrown in.
Because for love to thrive don’t we need to at least believe it is the real thing that will last forever? Otherwise, what is the point?
I am not interested in holding the fort for someone else. I am far too old and jaded now to bother unless it’s for real, and I feel good about that. Other people may feel differently.
Though I will say something, temporary anything, when it comes to relationships can be thrilling. And exciting and completely absorbing. We should all have at least one of these experiences in our romantic lives, But whether or not it is really love, is incredibly difficult to say.