I have recently learned that when two people have a relationship that is close and so much more than just an attraction, time apart is hard (so much harder than you think it will be).
Even if you are the one who choses the trip and created the distance it’s hard, and if you are the one who smiled and supported even though you never wanted them to go in first place it’s the same hard, but with added annoyingness that you never had any choice in it in the first place.
It doesn’t take long for one of you to start to unravel. This might be in a very dramatic fashion or it might be in a more sensitive and quiet way . Because actually what scares the living daylights out of you both is how hard it is to be apart. What does this mean? What will happen next time? Will things ever be the same again? How will you get through it? How can you provide the support to each other when you are both so on the edge with what you can deal with?
But you know what? Stop. It’s all going to be ok.
Because what actually happens in great relationships when you both start to unravel individually is this:
The ‘I’ continues to struggle but the ‘US’ becomes stronger than ever.