The trouble with modern day relationships without a shadow of a doubt, is social media. Because whether you like it or not, there is constant exposure to everything and everyone. Even the stuff you want to ignore or the people you wish to forget.
Some forms of social media are so hostile too, so you are either in with the cool dudes or you are not, if one half of the relationship is and the other isn’t then that can be all sorts of fun and games. Especially if this takes up a lot of time and lots of complicated friendships are involved. It is really easy to feel excluded from someone else’s online life.
Relationship history and life before the love is kept alive by social media and it makes it almost impossible to leave things and people in the past. Sure you can do some blocking and some unfollowing and stuff but unless everyone you know is willing to do the same then those faces that you despise will still occasionally pop up, in the comments section or, even worse. The ‘suggested friends’ section. ( I don’t know about you, but I really don’t feel that Facebook is best placed to decide who I might like to be friends with – they are like the worlds most annoying stalker )
I am sure the original specification of social media was to connect people, but where is the line? Do we really need to know what everyone is doing every minute of the time? Do we really need to know everything about everyone? It’s like the biggest scandal these days if someone changes their relationship status, or unfollows someone. EVERYONE, and I mean everyone has an opinion on this. And honestly why do they care? I think it’s quite a healthy things to have a friends / followers cull every now and then. These aren’t the most important relationships in our lives, Are they ?
You often see signs in restaurants that say things like ‘we have no wifi – talk to each other instead’ and I’m sad, I am sad that often people are too busy posting about it and judging about it to be actually doing it. In the olden days, when relationships ended you just walked away and very occasionally your paths might cross but that was it, now it’s like our pasts follow us around and make things tricky. All for a few ‘likes’ and ‘follows’.
*** I am going to add here, that yes. You can ‘opt out’ of social media but that in itself causes all sorts of drama and accusations of being ‘unsociable’ and ‘boring’ there is no solution to this problem!***