I think it is really hard to think about life and love without thinking about your rose tinted ‘someday‘ Where everything is perfect and life is exactly as you want it to be, with exactly the right person, without risk or compromise. Because it seems to me, that it is absolutely possible to think that love will be enough. The romantic in me always wants to believe that if there is enough love, then all the other things can be defied.
But is this really the case in actual real life?
I have wondered often if our need for love is stronger and more crucial than our need for anything else? What about our need for security and for friendship and freedom and adventure and support ? You see to me, you need all of that to have love. So I just don’t understand how they can be viewed as separate ‘needs’ when selecting a partner and creating an ideal relationship scenario ( is there such thing? We might come back to this another day! )
This is causing me quite a significant amount of confusion! I guess it is not helped by the fact that this ‘someday’ image can be constantly changing over time. I have written before about happiness and I said something like, how do you know where to find happiness if you have absolutely no idea what you are looking for. This is the same thing really, if the image or the concept of the perfect ‘someday’ keeps altering then how can you possibly achieve it?
What does it mean if ‘someday’ never comes? How can we change the vision of ‘someday’ to ‘oneday’? I feel like having these aspirations in love and relationships can be a good and bad thing in equal measure. If you get there. It will literally be the best thing ever. If you don’t, it’s probably going to hurt like hell. But then that has never put any of us off in the past has it?