It was a moderately bad film, I watched in on a rainy day on the Gold Coast of Australia. But I do think they were onto something! More and more lately I have heard about people trying to salvage or force relationships with people when it is obvious that they are just not into it. Are we just so desperate for love and affection that we will ignore ALL the warning signs and still be optimistic?
A friend of mine met this guy and she was really keen, she had sent him like 4 messages over a week asking him about meeting up. He did not reply. NOT ONE SINGLE REPLY. Yet there she is asking what she should do next to make him respond? I’m like, hey lady, [shouts] ” he is just not that into you!” Why oh why are nice people wasting their time obviously barking up the completely wrong tree?
The trouble with me is, I think I have been like this a bit myself, especially in my younger days. Dare I say it, it’s the challenge? I think there are just some people who like to think that they can win over these ‘non responders’ because if you do actually manage it – I bet the feeling is quite satisfying. However, I would never just go silent on someone, I fail to see the point in that. If it isn’t working for you then you should just say that, cut ties and move on. Silence is a weapon and it can be very hurtful indeed in my experience.
Even if you do manage to eventually get a response out of these people it inevitably leads on to is the one sided relationship. I can tell you, I have had many, many of these. When you say all the nice things and they never say them back, when you make all the effort for the meet ups and you are lucky if they even show up, when you text them and they never reply. When we know we are completely wasting our time, tell me. Why on earth do we do it?
Have you ever been in this situation? Why did you keep on trying? In my experience, you can’t force someone to adore you. And even if you do, who wants to be with a person who had to be talked into having any feelings for you? We all absolutely deserve more that that.