I have been wondering lately what it is that happiness looks like. Is it measurable? Is there like a scale where at say 1 you are miserable, 5 you are meh and 10 you are ecstatic? Is my daily search for happiness in vain because we will never actually be able to tell if I get there?
Obviously it is an emotional state, a feeling, a being maybe. But clearly it is incredibly complex because two people can be in exactly the same situation, path of life, relationship Etc and one of them could be feeling entirely happy and content and the other could be feeling sad or mediocre.
For the lucky ones in life, I guess happiness just turns up and stays around. For others, like me, it has to be searched for and constantly worked at, maintained even. But I think the question I ask myself the most frequently is:
What does happiness look like to me?
Because without knowing that, how can we ever be truly happy? You wouldn’t even attempt to look for anything else without knowing what you were looking for first would you?
By the very nature of an adult life, your needs, expectations, values, everything, changes constantly so I guess so do the requirements of happiness. In this continual cycle of living it seems pretty unlikely we can always be totally happy. But we should at least know what it might look like, so when we are searching we have a decent chance of finding it.